How to avoid regrets on your deathbed

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How to avoid regrets on your deathbed


There’s been quite a bit of talk lately about the regrets that people come to realize when they are on their death bed. There comes a time, when all that you are able to do is look back and reflect on your life and the choices you made. You spend your final days, weeks or months looking back at what went right, and what went wrong in your life.

For most, they experienced extreme clarity and wisdom upon looking back on their lives and formed regrets on how they lived life. A palliative nurse was counseling the dying during their last few days on earth, and she documented the top regrets she heard from those at the end of their lives.

You can read the full article here, Top five regrets of the dying.

But something I did notice, was that people do not regret the things they did in life, but they regret the things they didn’t do…

“No one on his deathbed ever said, I wish I had spent more time on my business.”
-Paul Tsongas

In this post, I will go through the top 5 regrets experienced by people on their deathbed and hope to give you some tips on how to avoid such regrets when your time comes. These are just the main regrets, and while I am not saying you won’t still feel some regrets, hopefully, this will prevent the biggest ones.


I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself,
not the life others expected of me.

This was the most common regret of all. When people reached the end of their life, they had time to reflect back on the lives they had and deeply regret not being true to themselves and what they really wanted to do in life. They wished they hadn’t just done what everyone told them they needed to do and would have rather had the courage to follow their hearts.

Falling into this trap is very common. It’s terribly unfortunate, but alas it is most common for people to do. We always deep down inside knows what our hearts want, but many fail to listen to it and instead does what everyone else thinks is the “best” way to live. Just because everyone else is doing it, doesn’t mean you have to as well, and even though it may have worked well for others, doesn’t guarantee it’ll work for you.

How to avoid:

  • Learning to listen to that voice inside is very important in order to not feeling regrets on your deathbed.
  • Taking a chance on yourself and spending some time getting to know yourself,
    read: Why getting to know yourself is so important in life
  • Once you know who you truly are inside, (hint you are not your name) you will realize exactly what you need to do in life, and the path will unfold for you naturally.
  • Learning to quiet the mind through meditation, or by other peaceful activities such as yoga or going on nature walks. By doing so, you will be able to hear your inner self-speak, and what it truly wants for your life, and it wants whats best for you! Its never too late to start! Even if you just started painting, like you’ve always wanted to do, then do it! You never know what could happen until you try!

I wish I hadn’t worked so hard.

This one was mostly said by men, wishing they had spent more time with their families or more time doing the things they loved instead of working their days away at the office. They wished they hadn’t worked so many hours overtime, missing countless family dinners, birthdays, special events, etc. Women also said this, but not as often as men do to the fact that women were usually at home with the babies during that era. Spending too much time working is, of course, a common regret, which can be avoided with an opened mind. We are after all conditioned to think that we need to work (this much) in order to feel accomplished, or successful in life… This belief we hold is so limiting because by spending all your time at work, you don’t have the time then to do the things in life that make you happy, thus causing regrets at the end….

How to avoid:

  • Don’t work so much. Its easier said than done I know, but realizing that this is a very common regret amongst people must make you prompt the question why…? Why do people regret working so much? Maybe when you get to the end of your life, you realize that all that time you spent working in order to afford a fancy car, or a nice home filled with a bunch of nice stuff was all useless now. It’s all meaningless, you don’t take it with you when you die. You realize that you’ll never get the time back from work, and you can miss so many wonderful experiences in life by having to work a rigid schedule.
  • Find out your true passions in life, and then do them instead of working. Then you will never feel like you worked a day in your life because you felt like you were playing!
  • Realize that you don’t need millions of dollars to be “happy” as I learned while reading this book: Book Review: Playing the matrix Happiness is the most important thing we should strive for in life, above all else.
  • Practice living minimally, that way you do not have to work so damn much to pay for all your stuff because you won’t have much! Cut back on life’s little luxuries, so that you can afford to not spend so many hours of time behind the desk. You will realize that at the end of your day you didn’t even miss your Starbucks drink, or $15 lunch, and you greatly enjoyed being able to get out of work an hour earlier to go for an afternoon walk at the park. You don’t always need to spend money to be happy, after all, its the little things in life.


I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.

Many people suppress how they feel inside in order to please others, and not cause any conflict, or because they are scared what someone might think of them. By doing so, they end up settling for mediocracy and following the herd,  never allowing themselves to reach the potential they are truly capable of. Before they know it, illness starts taking over because of all the negativity they’ve kept bottled inside and they begin going downhill from there.

How to avoid:

  • Courage is not something you obtain, its something you have had inside you all along, you just need to remember this, and go find the courageous you.
  • When you begin to learn about yourself, you begin to form truths about who you are, and when you start to build your life on the foundation of your truth, you realize that you have the courage to express your true feelings to others.
  • March to the beat of your own drum, and don’t let others hold you back because they will certainly try…. People don’t like to see others advance and progress through life, which is why you will lose people along the way. They won’t like the new you, and that’s okay because you are living true to yourself, and that’s all that matters.
  • The best thing you can do is help them realize they too are living life all wrong, and show them the way to a more fulfilling life where you can be whoever you want to be.

I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.

Everyone misses their friends when they are dying, it’s a very common regret amongst everyone. Many people become so caught up in the day to day tasks and deadlines that they put their old friends on the side burner and never manage to pick the relationship back up. People often realize the true power of friendship only when it is already too late, and they spend their final moments wishing they hadn’t lost them over the years.

How to avoid:

  • No matter how busy your life gets, which if you have been following along, working too much is also a big regret, but no matter how busy it gets always make time for lifelong friends.
  • If they don’t reach out to you, reach out to them first. I am sure they are living their lives waiting for you to call them, and you’re waiting for them to call you. Make the first move and reconnect! You’ll be happy you did, and better yet, you won’t regret this one in your final days.
  • True lifelong friends are hard to come by, so making time for the ones you have in your life will give you a peace of mind, and also aids in loneliness which is a big problem when we reach old age. Even having one true friend will be a benefit.

I wish that I had let myself be happier.

Ah, there it is, happiness. A huge issue for a lot of people because it’s so open-ended. Happiness is a mysterious thing that people strive for all their lives, saying oh once I get such and such, then I’ll be happy. So they wait, and wait, and wait, and finally, they get what they wanted, and they feel happy for a week or two, and then they sink right back down into the hole. Happiness is not something you can buy, it’s not something that someone can give you, its something that you must find on your own, and the wonderful thing about happiness is you can be happy anywhere you want in the world, and in cases which some would call extreme suffering. Happiness is a state of mind, which means it doesn’t rely on outside factors. It’s something you can be at any moment throughout the day, regardless of how much money you have in the bank, or if you are in a loving relationship.

How to avoid:

  • Don’t fall into the trap that so many have fallen into over the years, the comfort zone is a sticky trap that can be very hard to crawl out of. Ask yourself, what would make you happier in your daily life and then work towards that state. (Note, do not use money as a thing that will make you happier, or any material possessions for that matter. Find happiness in things that cannot be taken away from you)
  • Don’t fall into the trap that fear has strategically laid out if you manage to lose your fear of death (which you will once you lead a fulfilling life) you will realize that there is absolutely nothing to fear, other than fear itself.
  • Happiness is a state of mind, it is a choice. You can either choose to be happy or unhappy. There is no crime in being happy, sure some might think you’re strange for being so happy, but honestly who cares? We are all headed to the same place, so why not enjoy the journey now before its too late!? Go and be the happy, positive, full of life person you were born to be!

That’s all folks! I am sure there are more regrets people face on their deathbed, but I just took the top 5 regrets. I hope you found this useful and you will start or continue to strive towards living a great life! When you reach the inevitable deathbed, you won’t be full of regrets, but full of great memories and experiences about how you broke the mold and starting living life on your own terms!

“The best way to deal with death is to live in a
fully conscious, compassionate, loving way.
Don’t wait until you’re on your deathbed to recognize that
this is the only way to live.”

-Morrie Schwartz


Other posts you might enjoy!

How to overcome Self-doubt

8 steps to living a better life

Why you need to believe in yourself

My experience dealing with depression

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So I thought I would go back in time a little here, and talk about my experience dealing with depression because back in 2011-2014 I was very depressed, and I had no idea I was experiencing that at the time. I didn’t actually realize that I was depressed at all… I thought that this was just a normal feeling to have in life.

Sure I was experiencing suicidal thoughts, extreme uselessness, and complete unworthiness at the time, but doesn’t everyone feel that way? Isn’t that just normal?

But can you blame me for feeling this way?

Depression is a very common thing to suffer from nowadays, what with everything going on in the world, how can one not feel depressed after watching the news, reading the newspapers, or even listening to a concerned friend talk about something bad that happened, could lead one to feel quite fearful. Depression is when you are locked in the past, and you no longer see any sort of future for yourself. You have a hard time getting up each day because ‘Well, whats the point?’ Your life is slowly becoming exactly what you didn’t want, the exact opposite of the dreams you had as a child, and more often than not we have no idea how to make it better.

We come into the real world with hopes, and goals, and dreams. We are positive and excited to start a life for yourself. Well, that was me anyway, I graduated high school, and choose to take a year off because I wanted to travel and do all this fun and exciting stuff, I believed in real-world education and to be honest, I didn’t believe in the school system anyways. I would go back to school if the real world didn’t work out for me the way I expected…

I didn’t end up doing any traveling after all, and I did end up going back to school for one year to study psychology, but I ended up failing almost every class and racking up over $10000 of debt in a single year. From there I realized I would need to work a job full time to pay this off, and so that’s what I did. But it seemed that despite my best efforts I was going backward each month, and my life slowly started to spiral out of control. Then to top it all off, my mother passed away suddenly, and at the age of 20, I was planning my mothers funeral… Life was not turning out the way I had expected it too, it felt like it was completely out of my control, I couldn’t see the reason all these bad things were happening to me, and I started to slowly become depressed.

Life was not turning out the way I had expected it too, it felt like it was completely out of my control, I couldn’t see the reason all these bad things were happening to me, I felt angry, and hurt, and I ended up turning my back on God, universe, higher power, source energy (whatever you wanna name it) and from there I started to slowly become more and more hopeless and depressed.

We all come into the real world after we get educated, excited to make a life for ourselves and to see all our dreams come true, but then all of that gets crushed slowly over time. We sometimes don’t even realize it’s happening, and we just keep pressing forward on the path that we know isn’t leading us to our dream life, but we do it to keep the others happy, as it is after all, what we are told to do, so we better keep doing it no matter how soul-crushing it is.

I felt like this life I had dreamt of for myself, was being ripped away from me right under my nose, and there was nothing I could do to get it back together. My bills were piling up, I was behind on all my payments, my car was about to get repossessed, my credit score was going down despite my sincere efforts to keep it in good standing, I even considered filing for bankruptcy because my credit card was at like $2500 which I thought was really high at the time… The real world was completely fucking me, and there was nothing I could do.  I had absolutely no hope for the future, as a matter of fact, I couldn’t even see the future as a possibility, I felt my life was over at the age of 22. I actually thought I was dying or I would die soon, or that the world would end in some catastrophic event… I was living in complete fear with no hope for the future, so what was the point of doing anything beneficial that would help my future self?

My days were long, sad and unproductive during that time. I became more and more nocturnal by the day, and I barely ever left the house. I worked only 1-2 times per week because that was all I could actually handle. I had no motivation to do anything, no self-esteem to communicate with others, and no confidence in myself at all. I was extremely shy, I didn’t like talking to people, and I felt people were constantly judging me all the time, and also I cared so much about what others thought of me.

So I went into hiding. It was easier than facing my self, and my problems. So I cut out all my friends and family from my life. Afterall, I was independent, I didn’t need anyone anyways, I was strong on my own.

My daily routine consisted of getting up around 4 or 5 in the afternoon,  it was the middle of winter too, so by 5pm it was already dark, I had missed any form of sunlight completely. I would get dressed and either go to the grocery store and spend at least $20 on food just for that day, or I would go to the Wendy’s/Tim Hortons by my place, buy a large ice cap as well as a full meal deal from Wendy’s.

Then I would go home and eat. That would be my only outing for the day. I would sit at home for the rest of the day, usually from 5 or 6pm onward never leaving the house again. I would eat and eat and eat because it was the only thing that made me feel temporarily content. I would normally just eat one big meal each day, and then snack the rest of the time. It was an extremely unhealthy way to live, but I didn’t really care.

It didn’t really matter the time of year it was either, I would justify coming home early each day in summer too by blaming the heat for bringing me inside on a nice summer night. I would race home usually from work or something at 5-6pm every single day just so I could play world of warcraft! It was fun and overall ended up being a good experience playing WOW because I did reach my end goal, I also gained a ton of people skills while playing it, as well as great leadership skills.

That was probably my one ray of hope while going through this depression, was playing the game. As crazy as that sounds, having a raid to look forward to at the end of your day was fun and exciting! I couldn’t wait to go home and play the game and hang out with my gaming friends… (Some of whom I actually ended up meeting on a couple trips I went on back in 2014 which was when I was finally winning the battle over my depression… )

But I also found snacking to be a pretty common thing to do while raiding. So I would always have a few snacks and drinks around me.

I gained about 30 pounds during this 2 year period, and since I didn’t own a scale it sorta just kept creeping up without me even realizing it.

I would just sit at my computer all night, while snacking and playing World of Warcraft, till the wee hours of the morning. I would go to sleep as late as possible, sometimes at 7am, I would finally be going to sleep. Then I would sleep all day, wake up and do it all over again. It’s like I was sleepwalking my life away.

My mind was so numb, I was like in a hypnotized state of being that I can hardly remember. Maybe I have suppressed those days from my memory because of how awful they were because I swear two years passed, and I can’t recall even a single good day I had.

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I will tell you though, I did end up snapping out of my depression, but I do believe it was due to divine intervention that caused it, and not my friends or family telling me to simply “snap out of it.”

At the time I was going through this depression, I had turned my back on God because, in my mind, I had created the story that he was single-handedly ruining my entire life, and I couldn’t see how what he had planned that one day this would all make sense, and how all this shit that was happening in my life was all in divine order”

I had been told so many other lies growing up in my youth, oh like how a fat man rides in a sleigh carried by reindeers to every single house on earth, one evening of the year with presents for all the children… Or how the Easter bunny and tooth fairy exist…

Maybe this whole God thing was also just a big fat lie we are told to keep the people behaving themselves and make us scared of doing bad things so we don’t go to hell.

So sure, I had turned my back on God because I was angry and hurt, and I lost all faith in life itself. Thus by doing so led me deeper and deeper into this dark tunnel of despair and depression.

I felt completely hopeless. My life felt over and it hadn’t even begun yet.

There was this one day though, I remember it very well because it was the day that lit that spark in my belly again, even though it was very faint at the time. I still felt it was there.

I went shopping that day because at that time in my life I was into material possessions, which would bring me a very brief moment of happiness. I decided to try on some new clothes, and after trying them all on, and taking pictures, I realized that they all looked so bad on me because I had gained so much weight… I realized that day, how much I hated myself, and who I was becoming…

Here is a picture I took that day that clearly opened my eyes to what I was becoming… I dunno why, but trying on all those clothes, and realizing how bad every outfit looked on me kinda opened my eyes. I didn’t want to be seen this way. I didn’t want to be this way anymore.

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The icing on the cake for me was when I saw these two pictures below, and that was it for me. I was done feeling and living this way any longer.

I have always been chubbier growing up, it is just who I am, and I’ve learned to love that part of me now, but this was the heaviest that I had ever been in my entire life and I knew that I needed to make a big change.

Shortly after this photo was taken, there was this one night that I went through, which I now call the dark night of my soul, but at the time I guess it was me hitting rock bottom. I remember I was lying on my floor crying desperately in my lonely basement living room, feeling utterly sorry for myself.

All of a sudden I heard a voice and it said:

“Alright Lindsay you are 22 now, you still have 3/4 of your life left. Are you going to die with your mom and do absolutely nothing with your life and be sad and depressed forever, or are you going to make a change and start working towards being that great version that you know you can be?”

Then I was immediately shown two visions. One was me at 40 years old continuing on this current self-degrading path I was on. I was extremely overweight, I lived alone with quite a few cats, (yes I was a crazy cat lady) it was clear that I barely ever left the house. You know that Simpson episode where homer wears the MooMoo? That’s the image I got, but it was me wearing the MooMoo sitting around my house eating junk food all day feeling depressed, lonely and sad.

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So then, I saw a vision of my life if I started working on myself, and my personal development, and boy was I ever in love! I saw this stunning version of me, that was beaming with happiness and love. She clearly was full of life and wonder, and had figured out the secrets to life. She was healthy, happy, and abundant.

I was hooked, I knew from that moment on, that no matter what, I had to work towards that wonderful version of myself. I couldn’t become that sad and depressed self. No, no, no…  I had hope again for the future, my eyes were seeing clearly again, and I could see the future, and boy was it ever looking wonderful!

I didn’t care how long it would take, I knew it would be a long journey, but I was willing to give it my all, and above everything, I was never going to give up on becoming this vision, because the alternative was just not acceptable to me.

So I started on the path to personal growth and development, and above all learning to love myself, which hasn’t always been easy, but I have never looked back, and I would never go back to the life I was living. You couldn’t pay me enough to go back to that life I was living.

I had this awakening 4 years ago now, and I have now become that person I had envisioned long ago, it’s absolutely unbelievable! Words cannot even begin to describe the happiness I feel now on a daily basis. I realized how wonderfully extraordinary I am, and how I can actually do anything that I set my mind too. I love myself more than I ever thought was possible, and I have a very clear vision of the future.

I now have a new vision of myself and who I am becoming, but I won’t share with you now, because even I am a little awestruck by her, and again cant really put it into words at the present moment.  I don’t doubt, however, that one day I will become that version.

I am in fact creating my greatest version every single day.


I lost two full years of my life to depression, and while I am extremely grateful I was able to get out of it when I did and decide not to continue living my life that way, it really is something that so many people are struggling with, and may not even realize they are, I know I sure didn’t…

Depression seriously sucks… You feel like your life doesn’t matter and that if you were to die tomorrow, no one would even care, the world would just carry on like you didn’t matter, which must be why so many people commit suicide each year.

I read a stat the other day stating that 800 000 people commit suicide every year.

That number is mind-boggling to me…

That is higher than war and natural disasters combined kill each year! So why do so many people still think depression isn’t a real issue?

“oh it’s just a phase, they will snap out of it eventually,” They all say, not understanding the implications behind it.

Depression is a serious killer and we should be paying more attention to it. It is a mental illness and it shouldnt go unnoticed. Why are so many people depressed? What is going on that is causing this?

I know for my generation, which is the Millenials mostly, we do feel hopeless towards the future. We watch the news and see all the terror, wars, disease, starvation, pain and suffering, and we dont know what to do to help. We know we want to do something, we all want to change the world, to make an impact, to change someone’s life for the better, to simply be a good human being…

But where do we even begin?

And if our own self-limiting beliefs and thoughts weren’t sabotaging us enough, we have to endure the rest of society telling us what we can and cant do in life. We are brainwashed into believing we are stupid and unworthy, we are not pretty enough, not smart enough, not good enough to do the things we long for in life.

We live in fear, too scared to break out from the hold the rest of society has on us, and do the one thing that makes our hearts sing.

That one thing you would do no matter what, even if you didn’t get paid for it, you would still do because you love it, it makes you very happy… This is called your passion in life.. And every single one of us has passions, and talents, and gifts to share to the world. Even those of you who think “I don’t have anything to offer.” Trust me, I felt the exact same way, and I want you to know that you do have wonderful talents and gifts to offer the world, you simply haven’t discovered them yet, which is probably why you are feeling hopeless or depressed.

Well I am here to tell you that you are all of this and more. You are perfect, and you are capable of living a wonderful life. Dont let depression win. You have to make a stand for yourself, or else it will consume you, and your life. You must find hope again. Believe in yourself, and trust that everything has a funny way of working themselves out, but realize they always somehow manage to turn out good in the end.

I look back on my time that I was depressed with acceptance, knowing that it was a phase of my life that I needed to go through for reasons that are now a deep knowledge of understanding as to why in my heart. It was an experience that I needed to have to become the person I am now today. Although going through it is not easy, and it is most likely going to be one of the hardest things you may ever experience in life, but try to see the light at the end of the tunnel, it may be faint, but its there. Just knowing that it is there, there is hope for you, after all, could be the one thing that keeps you going when things are the darkest.

Remember that there is always a sunrise, even after the darkest of nights. Meaning that even if your life is dark now, it won’t always be this way, trust that the sun will shine again, and you will find happiness again. Don’t give up on yourself, you can find the light again.

Also please stop listening to and caring about what others think, and start to find your own truth for your life. You can and do create your own reality whether you realize this or not. Most of us simply don’t realize we are doing it, which is why our lives never turn out the way we hoped… I have now taken a much more conscious approach to the concept of creating my own reality, and I have now come to understand that I can have, be or do anything that I want… You have to realize what life means to you, who are you? Why are you here? What is your purpose for being here? Asking yourself these questions will help you design for yourself your ideal life…

You have to realize what life means to you… Who are you? Why are you here? What is your purpose for being here? Asking yourself these questions will help you design for yourself your ideal life… You must get to know yourself first before you do anything else. Afterall, you’re going to be with yourself for the next countless years, so you may as well get to know who you are…

I wrote a post on the importance of getting to know yourself, which I find to be one of the most important things we should do with our lives… Please give it a read if you are interested!

Meditation will help you do this, but you need to allow yourself the time to simply sit and be quiet so you can listen to your higher self speak. You won’t know what you want to accomplish in life without quieting the egoic mind and listening to that quiet voice that wants you to live the greatest life imaginable!  (Meditation is hard for most because when we sit and try to quiet our minds, our ego hates that because it wants to be seen and heard and acknowledged so it will try to throw a tantrum saying all the things we should be doing instead of meditation. Just knowing this and saying “this will only take 10 mins and then you can come back out”, to your ego, will usually help to help quiet the mind)

You must also learn to have grace with yourself, and forgive yourself if you make mistakes because we are human, we are no doubt going to make mistakes in life, so simply forgive yourself when you do and move along.

Depression is serious, but it can be defeated, think of it like an inner battle you are having, and have the courage to overcome it. You don’t need to ingest medications, although I did for two years and it did help at the time, now I am off them and I feel even better than before. Just know that you have everything already in you that you need to overcome this battle, just trust in yourself and know that you are powerful beyond measure.

~Namaste~

 



Other posts you might like to read:

How to overcome and grow from adversity

All it takes is one moment to change your life

Why you need to believe in yourself

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My thoughts on Veganism

“I personally chose to go vegan because I educated myself on factory farming and cruelty to animals, and I suddenly realized that what was on my plate were living things, with feelings. And I just couldn’t disconnect myself from it any longer.” -Ellen DeGeneres

Being a vegan seems like it has become a very hot topic amongst many people nowadays, what with the countless documentaries, novels and articles on the subject, and thousands of people making the switch each and every day, it is no longer a notion just for the hippies. Becoming a vegan, vegetarian, or simply choosing to eat less animal product, in my opinion, is one of the most rewarding experiences of your life! Choosing to eat a plant based diet is in my honest opinion, one of the greatest things you can do for mother earth and for our environment, and finally but not least, for yourself. We can all start choosing a healthier menu than the one we have been told to eat our whole lives. Simple education on the subject alone has made a tremendous impact on my life, and it truly was an eye-opening journey, that I believe each needs to take on their own.

I, unfortunately, am not here to try to convince you to become vegan or eat more plant stuff. It is simply my personal journey and if you learn or realize even one thing by reading this then I am happy. It is inevitably up to you and only you to decide whether eating a more plant based diet is a good idea for you.

You, after all, have free will to choose how you live your life.

Anyways, enough gabbing here is my story about going vegan as well as some of my thoughts on the subject!

Happy readings!

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Back in 2014 in an attempt to start educating myself on topics of interest, I found myself starting to watch documentaries on Netflix about the subject of food and the treatment of the animals, and I remember crying in my bed one night during the movie called “earthlings” at the clear and undeniable cruelty and torture of the animals and the disgusting conditions in which they are kept. It made me so sick to my stomach that I decided to go Vegetarian the following day, which lasted for two months before I ate meat again.

That was almost 3 years ago now… I realized that I had been eating a good amount of meat and dairy especially during my time living in Revelstoke, and I guess I  tried to suppress what I had seen in those documentaries. I had my head in the sand for the most part and pretended to not know what I knew. I enjoyed those days because I knew they were limited. The days where I freely ate whatever I wanted, chicken, beef, pork, bacon (needs its own category)… I enjoyed it all and didn’t think too much at all about what I happened to be consuming.

But I knew those days were numbered because deep down I couldn’t forget what I knew. I knew one day the day would come when I would quit eating meat or dairy or using any animal byproducts whatsoever. I felt it in my soul that I was that person. I just hadn’t become it yet.

I had been contemplating a plant-based lifestyle for quite some time before I made the switch, I’ve known for a long time I would one day go through with it, I knew I would eventually have to pull my head out of my ass and act the part, there were many things preventing me from it. Like what about all those delicious meat-based dishes like spaghetti and meatballs I love so much? I will miss all favorite foods, and heavens what about cheese! I couldn’t ever cut out cheese completely, I absolutely love cheese! I really don’t think I can do a vegan diet all the time… Especially during travels, and for special occasions. I would simply hate being limited in my diet whilst traveling, or camping with friends for example.

And I also worked out, so what about protein, how on earth would I get enough protein now without eating meat? I did wonder this until I was enlightened to the fact that a ton of vegetables and whole grains have protein, and it is very healthy for you too. Some of the strongest and fittest people happen to be vegan so I couldn’t use that excuse anymore…

I actually came up with every excuse in the book as to why I didn’t want to make the change, and this lasted over 2 years-long… Before I finally realized at the very end of July 2017 that it was now or never.

Before I finally realized at the very end of July 2017 that it was now or never. I would go vegetarian on August 1st. But I still needed a bit of a push.

So I did what had always motivated me to make a change, and head right on over to watch videos of people that were currently vegan and happy on youtube which made me want to do it for the health and life benefits, and then when I saw how happy I could be as a vegan I realized that maybe vegan was actually more beneficial than going vegetarian, then after that (all in the same night) I went and watched a documentary that would speak to my heart about the animal cruelty once again, and also opened my eyes more to the dairy industry prompting me to become Vegan the next day.

I decided, however, that I would give myself some breathing room, and right from day number 1, I had decided that if ever I really really wanted to eat something that wasn’t “plant-based” I could, and it was as simple as that. Now I know that if I am offered my favorite spaghetti and meatballs, I can have some, I just will limit the meatballs to 1 or 2 or maybe 3, instead of the 7, 8 or 9 that I would normally have.

I now see meat and dairy as more of a luxury food that I can still enjoy on special occasions if I really want, because after all, food is a big part of having a social part of life, and I still wanted to go out with my friends to dinner once in a blue moon, and not be restricted to a salad. I could if I really wanted to eat a burger, I would just not very often. It’s the part of me that still wants to “Live” and enjoy the incredible foods of this planet. But all in moderation of course. I will just try my best and take it one meal at a time.

It is hard to make the decision to go vegan or eat a plant based diet. It is not something you should take on all willy nilly, and if you do that then honestly good for you, you have great determination.

I went back and forth several times before I fully committed to the lifestyle. It did get easier after a few weeks, and instead of craving hamburgers and chicken wings, I started to crave veggie stir-frys and whole grains, I know weird right? …

Immediately after making the switch to a plant based diet, my energy levels plummeted, and I mean that in the best way because it doesn’t sound like a good thing because I was tired most of the time. I remember one afternoon I came home from work at about 2 pm, and went to take a “short 1-hour nap” and slept until 7.30 pm. I couldn’t believe it. But it made me realize that I simply wasn’t eating enough, and so I had to change that. I also had some pretty cool dreams during those naps, that I remembered vividly, so it wasn’t all bad! I also wasn’t working too much at the time, so it didn’t really affect me in that respect, they were just lovely afternoon naps that I all of a sudden needed…

You see, on a plant based diet, you can and should eat a heck of a lot more than you normally would when eating your typical diet. It shocked me on how full I would feel just by eating whole grains and vegetables… Like who would have known!? But once I started eating more food, I got my energy levels back, and I started to feel great! I also was losing weight without really trying, like I used to bust my ass at the gym to see even a pound gone, but now I was barely going to the gym at all and I was losing weight… Was this going to be finally the answer to my prayers when it came to my body weight I had struggled with my holy life?

But once I started eating more food, I got my energy levels back, and I started to feel great! I also was losing weight without really trying, I mean I used to bust my ass at the gym to see even a pound of weight lost, but now I was barely going to the gym at all and I was losing weight… Was this going to be finally the answer to my prayers when it came to my body weight I had struggled with my whole life?

I had heard of some incredible transformations thanks to a plant based diet. Maybe this was the last piece to my puzzle when it came to weight loss. I’ve been struggling with my weight since I was 7 years old. It has always been a concern for me, and I’ve tried many times to lose weight. But I feel like this is the big one for me, I won’t stop till I succeed this time.

I am not a plant-eating saint, I still cheat occasionally, usually when it comes to a hidden milk product in some foods like chocolate, but I do my very best not to eat it because to be honest most of the time it really isn’t worth it… But there is that occasional time when I just have to have that piece of cheesy pizza, and I do, and I enjoy it 1000 times more than if I had I always eaten that sort of stuff… It’s really weird to explain, but the food just tastes better now, like I have awakened to this whole new world of fantastic foods, that have been there the entire time, I just could never appreciate them fully. But now I can. My taste buds are phenomenal!

Now that I have my energy levels back too, I feel much better inside and out. I have lots of energy and find that I am happier as well. Maybe it has to do with not feeling guilty anymore when I eat dinner, knowing that I am not eating animals anymore. I believe in the saying, “you are what you eat” because the foods you choose to ingest does become part of you. I am no scientific expert on this subject though, so if you want to learn more about the scientific health benefits of being a vegan, or simply eating more plant-based foods and less meat and dairy, there is a ton of information out there waiting for you to discover.

Once you start to look into this area more and more, you will slowly begin to realize how much there is that you don’t know, and how you have been told lies your whole life. What the industries are doing is simply not right, it is morally and ethically wrong, and we don’t even realize what is going on out there. Once you start going down the rabbit hole, it’s hard to get out unchanged.

Unfortunately, right now, most of us don’t see animals as beings, that feel pain just like we do. We wouldn’t wish the treatment animals receive in the slaughterhouse onto our worst enemy in the world, and yet we turn a blind eye when it comes to that bacon you enjoyed at breakfast, the chicken breast you had on your salad at lunch, or that steak you BBQ’d for dinner…

I think if you educated yourself to the point where you actually knew where your food comes from, and the process it undertakes before getting to your plate you would definitely think twice about eating meat and dairy, but that’s just my personal experience with the whole concept. Once I knew what I was really eating, I decided that I really couldn’t justify it no longer, and I decided from then on that I would stick to a plant based diet as best I could. Some people don’t get that decision I have made, and that is expected, not everyone will see things the way that I do. But I am happy I finally made the decision to start eating plant based, as I have wanted to now for a few years.

These two quotes sum it up:

“The problem is that humans have victimized animals to such a degree that they are not even considered victims. They are not even considered at all. They are nothing; they don’t count; they don’t matter. They are commodities like TV sets and cell phones. We have actually turned animals into inanimate objects – sandwiches and shoes.” Gary Yourofsky

“I don’t see why someone should lose their life just so you can have a snack.” -Russell Brand



Thoughts 

-The health benefits of eating a plant based diet are quite phenomenal. Seriously I could sit here and ramble on and on all day, but I won’t. I trust that if you are curious you can look into it yourself and make your own wise decision because you know what problems you are dealing with better than I do, and I know you will see for yourself that eating a plant based diet has some serious benefits that you could potentially enjoy and benefit from…

-The problem I see with being a vegan nowadays is it’s not very accepted, especially by people that aren’t vegan themselves. I haven’t been vegan for very long at all now, actually, to be honest, I don’t even like saying I am, I prefer just saying I eat a plant based diet, I prefer not to eat meat or dairy, for reasons that speak truth to who I am. But what I have noticed is people almost feel uncomfortable around others who are vegan, and almost feel judged in a way by people who happen to be vegan. Being a vegan has gotten a bad rep throughout the years, and I find that even saying you are a vegan can rub some people the wrong way.

-We vegans, vegetarians or plant-based eaters should never feel superior to people in any way, shape or form. We are all equals, no matter what we choose to put in our mouths, or how we choose to live our lives. We are simply acting as the change we wish to see in the world.

-We should never feel judged, or looked down upon because of the food we choose to eat. It is our free will to decide what we eat individually, and you should never feel pressured to do anything you don’t feel is best for you. Stick to what you feel is true to you, whether that’s with eating meat, or eating vegetables.  

-it is not our place to look down or judge another for what they eat. Instead, inspire others to willingly make the change on their own without feeling forced. They will feel like it was their decision to go vegan and not some outside influence, and are more likely to stick with it for the long-haul, and not just a few days.

-I remember experiencing this feeling before I went vegan, and I was eating meat and dairy without really even thinking about it, but the second I was around others that were vegetarians, or vegans, I immediately felt uncomfortable eating meat all of a sudden, but at the same point I became inspired by them to give vegan a fair trial to the idea of becoming a vegan myself, as the vegans that were around me were all extremely happy and peaceful with their lives… And I wanted that pretty bad.

-I personally hate the label “vegan” and while I called myself one for a little more than a week, and probably pissed off a few people by stating all loud and proud I was a vegan, I never wanted to do that. Since before I even decided to become a vegan, I thought, I sure hope I don’t become one of those annoying vegans that tell everyone how they are vegan and how they state they don’t eat meat or dairy or use any animal products. I remember thinking I would be much more modest about it, but I soon realized that I had indeed started doing exactly the thing that I hated….I started to become that annoying vegan person…

-I dunno what happened, but for some reason the minute I decided to ‘GO VEGAN’ I felt inclined to tell as many people as I could, I would somehow try to include this information in almost all conversations, even when we weren’t even talking at all about food. I would casually just throw in “oh I am a vegan, I don’t eat meat or dairy” even when the conversation was nothing regarding food or health. What was happening, why had I started doing this???

-I decided after just a week of calling myself a vegan, that I was over it, and I really didn’t like being that anymore, and so I decided to figure something else out. Now, I don’t call myself a “vegan” at all, but I simply keep it to myself, and if someone asks, I just say I eat a plant based diet, similar to what a vegan might eat, but I can’t go as far as to say, “I am a vegan…”

-Simply saying I prefer to eat a plant based diet seems to work for me, and it takes away the awkwardness of it all. People don’t feel as uncomfortable with that statement as they do upon hearing “oh yeah, I AM A VEGAN!”

“It’s not a diet. It’s not a phase. It’s a permanent lifestyle.” -Anonymous


 

To wrap things up,

These things do require an open mind, because eating a plant based diet isn’t for everyone, and you have to be willing to learn about it and see if it is right for you. The people that I watch on youtube (I’ll list a couple of my favorite ones below) they are all just radiant with happiness and love and they all have one thing in common, they happen to be vegan, which is one of the biggest reasons for me to make the switch. I was already happy before but I thought “if going vegan made me even 10% happier, it would be worth it.” And guess what??? It worked! I am indeed happier than before when I ate whatever I wanted, and ate meat without even thinking about what I was eating.

What helped though I realized, was to just take it one meal at a time. Don’t do what I did and start worrying about what you’ll eat at Christmas dinner, when you are currently in August, cause that is just crazy. Just worry about eating plant-based for your next meal, and then the meal after that, and so on. It really did help me not feel overwhelmed at the beginning of the whole lifestyle change.

“Every time sitting at a dining table, we make a choice. Please choose vegetarianism. Do it for the animals. Do it for the environment and for the sake of your own health.”  -Alec Baldwin.

Finally, being a vegan or eating a plant based diet is not for everyone, but we can all easily start eating less meat and dairy and try viewing it as a luxury food instead of the way we see it now. The health benefits alone you will start to notice by eating more plants will be very rewarding and worth it to you. Even just try it for 7 days, and you’ll start to see a difference! You’ll also feel much better emotionally knowing that you are doing something good for mother earth by no longer contributing to the meat and dairy industry, which is absolutely sickening if you looked more into it. I feel like if you really knew what went on, you’d never touch another hamburger or chicken wing in your life. But that’s just my opinion.

“The world is a dangerous place, not because of those who do evil, but because of those who look on and do nothing.” -Albert Einstein



The main two Vegan YouTubers I enjoy watching are:

Koi Fresco– Teachings for personal and spiritual growth
His video here I watched the night I decided to go vegan: ‘Can meat eaters be spiritual?

Veganism! (What it is & How to Help Save This Planet)

How to Go Vegan Today! (A Beginner’s Guide to Veganism)


Infinite waters– This guy is seriously so full of happiness and has been vegan for 13 years, but you wouldn’t think that by looking at him!

Tons of great videos on his channel to check out, but here are a few about his Vegan journey:

THE 7 DAY VEGAN CHALLENGE | Why Vegans Are Dangerous

How to Start A VEGAN Food Diet! Lose WEIGHT! BURN FAT FAST!!!

Before/After VEGAN! (10 Super TRANSFORMATIONS)