Its that time of year again, as the end of 2018 quickly comes to a close, and we start to gear up towards the new year of 2019, which always makes people ask themselves,
“What will be my new year’s resolution?”
Now, through the years, new years resolutions have gotten a bad reputation. People make fun of you if you have a resolution such as, ‘this year I am going to work out every day.’
No you won’t don’t lie.
Sure you might start off the year strong, hitting the gym every day for a full week, but what happens when you get sick or bored of the gym? Then what?
You will likely stop going, and then you will beat yourself up for the remainder of the year for failing yet again at another New years resolution.
For myself, I haven’t set a New Years resolution for many years now, they simply don’t work for me.
However, there is something I do when a New year rolls around, and what I do, is evaluate my life, looking at all the areas that I want to improve, and design a plan that is easily achievable in bite-sized pieces so that I can miss a day or two here or there and not beat myself up for “failing” at my resolution.
Because it isnt a resolution.
A resolution is by definition, “a firm decision to do or not to do something.”
I never set those, because just like a diet, the moment we are restricted or told we can’t have this, or we can’t do that, it’s like the old saying, we want what we can’t have. Or if we are told we have to do something, like go to the gym every day, we start dreading what could be the highlight of our day, just because we HAVE to do it makes us not want to do it.
Most New years resolutions fail 9/10 times because a person decides to cut something they believe to be negative, out of their life. Whether that is smoking, eating junk food, or even sex.
They cut it completely out of their life on January 1st, and by the middle of the week they are asking themselves, “what have I done!?”
That’s when the self-doubt comes in and starts saying “you really can’t do this, what were you thinking? Once a smoker, always a smoker.” SO before you know it, you are at the neighborhood 7-11 buying yourself a pack of cigarettes, or a bag of candy or chips.
Prohibiting yourself from something is not the way to do it, there is a much better way to improve your life than just cutting everything you consider bad out.
Now for me, I have been diving deep into personal growth for the past several years now, and I can’t stress the importance of having a goal in mind, doing little things each day towards that goal, and eventually, through time and effort, you will reach the finish line.
I am all for making goals, but even those can fail, because if you set the goal to say, run a full marathon by June, but you only set that goal to impress your friends and family at the New Years event, then come next week you will be sitting on your couch while you should be out training… Your reason for setting the goal in the first place has to be a good enough reason to get you up and training even on days you don’t feel like it.
Don’t just set a goal for the sake of setting a goal. Set a goal so amazing, that when you achieve it you will feel like you can do anything, that you can achieve anything you set your mind too and work steadily towards that goal.
Now I would like to share with you all my plan for this New Year of 2019; and if you have been following this blog for a while, you know how crazy I am, so my plan is a big one so bear with me.
So I watched this Mindvalley Masterclass the other day, and he was talking about this thing he created called: Life Book.
In this Life Book, he focused on the 12 main categories of life:
Health & Fitness
Quality of life
For each category, he spends an entire month of the year doing a deep dive into each one, so January for health and fitness he does a deep dive into anything relating to his health and fitness. He has seen extraordinary results using this method, and at 49 years old he has an amazing life and looks to be about 20 years younger…
So after watching this masterclass, I decided for myself to create my very own Life Book for this new year, and I copied his exact categories, but I will set my own mini goals within each category, and another thing I changed was the time frame.
So instead of 1 month for each category, I will do 10 days instead. Originally I was going to do a week for each, but me being the strange weirdo I am, I want to start to step away from the concept of time, which includes following the days of the week. It doesn’t matter to me if it’s a Tuesday or a Saturday, I want to work towards my life dreams each day regardless of what day of the week it is.
So 10 days for each category to do a deep dive, times the 12 categories equals 120 days, which is a quarter of the year, which makes it perfect because I can repeat this 3 times throughout the year, reaching a month for each category anyways, its just spread out more.
So for January, I will be focusing on Health and fitness where I have a few mini goals that will give me momentum to continue throughout the year. A few of my mini goals so far are: Do a 3-5 day detox cleanse, expand my yoga practice, go out for a daily nature walk/jog.
That’s it! That’s all I need to focus on for the first 10 days of January. Nothing crazy, nothing that I can fail at, and even if I do “fail” at going for a walk one day, that’s okay! I can still keep going, for no reason whatsoever do I need to quit.
Then the habits I gain in the first 10 days, such as eating healthier, going for daily walks, and doing more yoga, they will all transfer over into the next 10 days, and so on, and so on. So that by the end of this first set in April, I should have a whole bunch of daily habits that have compounded over time into some amazing results!
I truly believe that doing a few small things every day, even if it’s just 10 minutes of meditation, or 20 minutes of reading, can have huge compounding results when done daily.
That’s why I recommend setting mini goals that can help you accomplish those bigger goals you have. SO instead of saying something like, “I want to run a full marathon by June.” Maybe start out by saying I would like to be able to jog for 1mile without stopping. Or what you feel like would be a challenge, yet achievable for where you are at.
New years resolutions work for those out there who are uber-motivated, but for the rest of us, we need to set smaller goals that we can feel a sense of accomplishment for when we achieve them, and you can give yourself a pat on the back when you accomplish it.
Restricting ourselves from the things in our life that bring us happiness, like smoking does for so many, is a silly thing to do and it just doesn’t work. Instead of quitting smoking altogether, maybe cut back? Let’s say you smoke 10 cigarettes a day currently maybe the first week cut down to 8 a day, and also watch a 10 minute video on the effects of smoking, so you get your mind on board too wtih your ultimate goal to quit smoking too.
Then on week 2, you cut down to 6 cigarettes a day, and so on and so on. Sure you might not quit completely on January 1st, but who cares about that, you have a plan of action now that will allow you to cut back slowly over time, which is much easier to do than we think, and before you know it, by February or March, you’ll be so done with cigarettes that you won’t even miss them anymore. (Watching Videos on the effects will help your mental state with this change.)
So that’s my thoughts on New Years Resolutions. I have not seen them work too well in the past, but hey that’s just my perspective. Maybe the work for you, and if so, then keep doing them! I think in any sense, its just good that we are pursuing greater versions of ourselves by wanting to make a change in the New Year.
If you would like any help figuring out a great plan of action for your life this year, please check out my website: https://changeamillionlives.ca/
You can contact me on there, and be sure to say what you’d like to achieve this year, but have no idea how to get there. I would be more than happy to help you figure out a plan that works for you.
Thank you for reading, I hope this helps and gives you some insight and inspiration to make this year 2019 your best year yet!
With Love and Light