Should we plan out our lives?


“If you want to make God laugh,

tell him your plans… ”
-Woody Allen

 

I find myself always trying to plan out my life. My mind LOVES it. Every day it goes, “alright, this is what we are going to do today, and tomorrow we are going to do this, then next month well be doing this, and one year from now we will be here        ?     .”

And the problem with this is, I spend all this time incessantly planning out what I will be doing a few months from now, I will plan out this whole elaborate plan, and then it never happens. Ever. Then I can just see God laughing at me because of course God sees the big picture and knows exactly where I am going in life, and I do not.

But all I need to do is sit back, relax and enjoy the ride, knowing that it will be wonderful.

And even though I know this on a deeper level, my mind instead wants to plan out exactly where the ride will go, and in precisely the way that I want it to. Which is really quite absurd if you think about it. But I believe it is human nature to want to try to control our lives, plan them out, and then be surprised when our plans don’t go as planned.


For an example, I was supposed to be in Thailand right now, that was the plan I had been planning for a while, which was supposed to be during the months of February and March. I have always wanted to travel, its one of my biggest dreams, and everything was lining up well for me to go, but I did not buy a plane ticket until a few days before I left, just in case I changed my mind.

I even wrote a post on it! Next Adventure: South East Asia- Feb. 12th-??

AND GUESS WHAT HAPPENED? I changed my mind… Not a big surprise there, I tend to change my mind more often than the weather. Which can be frustrating, to say the least. How am I supposed to progress in life if I cant make up my damn mind about something? Which has been a whole journey all on its own which I will write about later on: if you control your mind you control everything else.

So anyway, I decided maybe a few days before my trip to Asia that I wasn’t going to go after all… But it was still a lot of fun to plan it and look forward to the trip nonetheless.

I find the anticipation towards something can be just as good as actually going. I think its good to always have something to look forward to in life, even if it doesn’t turn out the way you have hoped. I think its okay to plan as long as you aren’t going to be devastated if your plans don’t work out the way you hope.

You see, I have been struggling over the past few weeks with this whole idea of not planning and it is a very hard concept to break away from. Our minds are always planning because our mind likes to know what is coming next. Since we cant see the future, our minds make something up to give us peace and to have an idea of where we are going.

It is actually very difficult to live life riding by the seat of your pants, allowing God to guide you, and trusting that everything will turn out wonderful. This is something I am working on, I am trying to not plan and control my own life, and I am just sitting back and allowing for whatever happens to happen. Its been a hard thing to do, but its also a lot easier to just allow what is, and not always trying to make things go the way I want.

I am realizing that there comes a time and a place for everything, and I am learning to trust and accept that, knowing that everything I desire and hope for in life will come to me at the perfect time.

I used to worry so much about meeting my life partner, trying to plan out exactly when and where I would meet him. Looking back this is absolutely crazy, but I did this, thinking to myself, “oh this weekend I am going to meet him, its bound to happen, I can feel it.”

I would amp myself up, get all in my head about it, imagine what he would say, and then what I would say, and I would create this entire scenario around the idea.

Then the weekend would come and go, and guess what? I didn’t meet him, and then I would feel sad and beat myself up for it… But that was actually absurd of me, to try to plan when and where I would meet my true love.

Through time, I am learning to just let God lead me, trusting that she knows what is the perfect timing for everything. She sees exactly what is coming, which I do not, and I must learn to trust that it will all be good. Having a child-like mind, and just being content with what is in each moment is by far the greatest way to live life. Something I have learned by studying the great masters of our time, they all taught the importance of the present moment.

Life is a lot easier when you allow God to lead too. You really don’t have to worry about anything except where you are right now in this moment. Tomorrow isn’t here yet, and yesterday is now in the past, all that matters is right here and now, and you are never alone without guidance in the eternal now. God is always with you guiding you along your journey, he never leaves you, not for even a single second.

I think this will be the theme for the month of March for me. To not try to plan out my life, and see where that leads me. I will still have small goals to work towards, but I am not going to say, “okay this month I expect XYZ to happen, and if it doesn’t, I will be sad.”

Whenever I find my mind starting to plan, I will remind it to come back to the present moment and focus on that instead. I am not going to be mad whenever I try planning as it is a very human thing to do, but just to not allow it to control my life as it has in the past. It is actually such a silly thing when we try to make plans for the future which hasn’t happened yet, because things can change in the blink of an eye, and if you have your heart set on any of your “plans” then you are going to be greatly disappointed, even if something better comes along, we still will feel upset that our other plans didn’t work out.

It’s about being carefree in the hands of God, and knowing that she knows what is best, and everything will turn out wonderfully well for you when you allow God to lead.

So should we plan out our lives? Well to that I would say yes and no. Try to just be happy in each moment because the eternal now is all that exists, you can imagine a positive future for yourself but don’t dwell there for very long, our minds cannot even begin to imagine currently the wonderful futures that’s in store for us. There is so much going on right now that will change the way we live life, and in this moment we can’t even imagine what the big picture is, but it’s truly beautiful and overflowing with the love of God.

“For I know the Plans I have for you, declares the Lord, Plans to prosper you, and not to harm you. Plans to give you hope and a future.” -Jeremiah 29:11

So sit back, relax, know that you are cared for and loved, and let God do the rest.

Thank you for reading, and I hope this has helped you on your own journey in life!

Namaste dear ones,
with Love and Light
Lindzay

 

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